What we say matters. In fact what we say, how we say, when we say…matters too.
I suppose if we talk things out to understand and sort them then our words and thoughts in the sorting phase maybe different once sorted and finally settled on. So if we are talk first and think later type people then our words matter also but it seems to me that we may need to preface our conversations so others know we are working through things using words. Personally, I internalize things and sort without talking a great deal about them before I have thought, thought and thought some more.
Perhaps for us who internalize before speaking or writing someone should create an app with an LCD banner on our foreheads that simply states “In Progress.”